The enormous power of words lies in the meaning of the words, what they mean to the person who hears them. The words elicit emotional responses in others that manipulate their thinking and behavior.
These manipulations have been defined as fallacious arguments. While the arguments appear to relate to the subject, they do not. In most cases they have little to do with the subject at all.
The danger lies in the fact that decisions based on them are not based on truth, common sense, logic, legality, one’s best interests or right and wrong but on emotions favoring those who put forth the more powerful arguments. They are designed to benefit someone else!
As emotions are constantly changing, opinions and decisions based on them also change. They are not stable, dependable or consistent over time. At any moment, they can be overthrown by someone else’s more compelling argument. Unknowingly making choices based on emotional appeals and logical tricks, one allows others to control their thinking, and their behavior, setting themselves up to be used for someone else’s interests.
In your personal life, recognizing these fallacious arguments for what they are will render them ineffective and powerless. You won’t be swayed to act against your own best interests.
The Parable of the Old Man, The Boy, and The Donkey
There was an old man, a boy and a donkey. They were going to town and the boy was riding the donkey, with the old man walking alongside.
As they rambled along, they passed some old women sitting in the shade. One of the women called out, ”Shame on you, a great lump of a boy, riding while your old father is walking.”
The man and boy decided that maybe the critics were right so they changed positions.
Later they ambled by a group of mothers watching their young children play by the river. One cried out in protest, “How could you make your little boy walk in the hot sun while you ride!”
The two travellers decided that maybe they both should walk.
Next they met some young men out for a stroll.
“How stupid you are to walk when you have a perfectly good donkey to ride!” one yelled derisively.
So both father and son clambered onto the donkey, deciding they both should ride.
They were soon settled and underway again. They next encountered some children who were on their way home from school.
One girl shouted, “How mean to put such a load on a poor little animal.”
The old man and the boy saw no alternative. Maybe the critics were right. They now struggled to carry the donkey.
As they crossed a bridge, they lost their grip on the confused animal and he fell to his death in the river.
And the moral, of course, is that if you try to please everyone you will never know what to do, it will be hard to get anywhere, you will please no-one, not even yourself, and you will probably lose everything.
Sometimes in life, one has to come to a stop and “Say No” ! This was what Han Geng did ! For those who just knew him as a singer, idol and star never knew what hit them when he filed for a termination of his contract. Many associated success as being popular and famous..without really knowing the pains and hardships involved. As a fan, especially for us who are not aware of the real deal, tend to judge his actions and thought that he gave up a “successful” career not fully grasping the situation. For his Gengfans in China, who has been following his every step and action knew that one day this will come.! They saw the “real actions”, the behind story if it can be put that way. As a fan outside of China, I have been following him and watching him closely. The opportunities when he got to sing solo were few and far between..but when he did get those times, he would sing songs that made me think..from the moment he sang “I’m Willing” to “A Fool’s Dock” and leading to”Betrayal” made me stopped and ponder. What was he trying to tell us? There were thousands of songs out there in the world, why did he choose those 3 songs..?
Here are the video clips made by Gengfans titled “The Romance between Han Geng & Fans” ( Brought to you by HG Fansub@hangengvn.net under the permission of 我比你还关心他@tiaba.baidu.com. ) It tells the journey from the start to the present time..It is related to the 3 songs which he sang conveying his message to his fans hidden in the songs..!! Only Gengfans in China were able to decipher the hidden message..so they knew what was in store, they have been waiting for him. What they didn’t know was the exact time he would act..
After watching the videos, I hope you have gained a better understanding of the relationship between Han Geng and his Gengfans..( Wendy, would you like to comment on this please..hehehe)
Now, to the real matter that has been the centre of attention ever since last December. Han Geng has been to many interviews, and many times he was asked the same question again and again. This time I would like us to view it from the “other” side, like from the people closest to Han Geng, who has known him for over ten years, who practically grew up with him and has been in each others’ homes and families..Below is an excerpt from a magazine interview which was published a few days back..It was translated by one of you kind readers, Wendy, who took the initiative to help us…
MANAGER’S SECRET (Sun Le)
BQ EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW OF HAN GENG’S TEAM
Very weak, needs protection
“What if I’m like those Korean artists; what would happen if I also commit suicide?” Up to now, Han Geng’s manager, Sun Le, still remembers the shock when those words came out of Han Geng’s mouth. “I knew Han Geng for 16 years. He is the type who doesn’t like to express himself, and does not know how to express himself. But he is never the negative (pessimistic) type of person. As a friend, when I heard these words, I can only use shock to express my feeling, then it’s heartache.”
In Sun Le’s impression, Han Geng is still the original little boy who stood in the corridor, looking at a bunch of handsome guys playing video games; “Very weak, needs protection”. In 1996, inside the corridor of the dance school’s dorm, the 16 years old Sun Le met the 12 years old Han Geng who just enrolled into the school. “Back then, I was playing with my dorm friends in the corridor, saw a little boy standing near the staircase looking at us. At that time I thought this little boy looked pretty clean, his eyes were bright, skinny, just like a little brother, needs protection.” Later on, Sun Le went over, greeted the boy, became friends. This little boy was Han Geng.
Within a bunch of boys, Han Geng speaks very little. Because he is small and skinny, he has always been looked after as a younger brother by others. In school, he is known for his fierce practicing. Every day besides the practice room, it’s the dorms. What he likes most is playing video games.
Usually, he doesn’t say much to others about his family condition. Until one time, Sun Le asked him to go to the amusement park to look for some excitement. It was then when they started to open up to each other. While having fun, Han Geng told him that his family was poor so he carried a lot of pressure on himself. This was the first time Sun Le felt that this boy, who looked like he couldn’t stand up to the wind, actually has his own persistence and strength. The bond of their friendship has been built ever since.
Even after (Han Geng) went to Korea to become a trainee, debuted as a member of SJ; within these four years, both of them have often kept in touch. “In order to save on phone bill, the both of us would call about once a month. We kept this up until Han Geng became a leader of SJ-M and came back to develop in China. During that time, Han Geng always tells his family good news and not the bad. It’s only during the phone conversations with a few of us friends would he complain a little, saying he has too much pressure. But all we could do was to give him one or two words of encouragement.”
A CASE OF RESCUE
After Han Geng came back to China to develop, his friends thought it would be great this time. Everyone could see each other more often, and Han Geng would not suffer so much pressure anymore. However, this had strengthened Han Geng’s determination to leave SM. Along with developing back home, Han Geng had more opportunities to attend events and meet more and more Chinese artists. Upon seeing the freedom of development and the working environment that the Chinese artists have, Han Geng felt that the Korean entertainment industry is overly demanding. “Even though the Korean entertainment industry has become like a production line, they have a very complete and effective way of producing a Super Star. But at the same time, during the process, the entertainment company sees the artists as a product, ignoring the basic fact that people have feelings too.”
Han Geng’s friend, Mr. Zhang, also expressed, “All these years in Korea, Han Geng indeed had suffered a lot. This is something that is hard to comprehend by the outsiders. Han Geng never complains about the physical hardship. But being a foreign artist, the disparity between the cultures and general views made it hard for Han Geng to be accepted by the Korean entertainment mainstream. He often suffered various indignities during activities and performances.”
Mid 2009, during a certain dinner gathering, Sun Le again enlightened Han Geng, “You need to think it through, China cannot be compared to the way Korea develops their artists, and you are the first Chinese artist who debuted in Korea and became famous. This title is your golden ticket. If you terminate your contract, you will face all kinds of problems, lawsuits, future developments, etc. You may, from then on, never be able to recover from the setback and be popular anymore.”
“But what if I’m like those Korean artists, and committed suicide?” These words from Han Geng finally made Sun Le realize that the seriousness of the situation is beyond what he had imagined. That night, Sun Le again recalls those words that Han Geng had said to him. The things that were done, after connecting them together, was then realized, “He really endured to the maximum. A lot of reporter asked me how demanding was it? It’s really hard for us to say. Only those who have experienced these events can fully grasp how lethal it could be”.
Remembering those days, every time before Han Geng goes back to Korea, he’ll always call Sun Le and say, “brother, I’m going back again. I really don’t want to go to Korea.” After he landed in Korea, Han Geng would immediately call Sun Le. In the beginning, Sun Le thought he just wanted to say he arrived safely, but when he answered the phone, basically Han Geng won’t say anything. After greeting him with “brother”, there would be silence, yet he still wouldn’t hang up. “I would be teasing him, saying he has problems. Thinking back now, I finally realized why he was like that.”
This time, Sun Le determined not let Han Geng leave again, instead, initiated in helping him leave SM Company. “Originally we wanted to hire the same law firm as the one used by DBSK. But because their case has not ended so they recommended to us our current law firm. There were a lot of documents to prepare so Han Geng gave us half a year of preparation time. Originally we planned to terminate the contract later, wait until the beginning of the year. But Han Geng really couldn’t stand it anymore so in December, we hastily announced the contract termination. It’s not like what the internet says, that it has been premeditated over a long period of time, or Han Geng found a better management company. A lot of people say Han Geng is ungrateful. Actually, I think this could be better perceived as a rescue mission.”
THE UNFAIR TREATMENT IS ALL TRUE
On the web, we’ve seen a document with statements made by Sun Le. On it, there are seven statements made against SM Company on the unfair treatments toward Han Geng. “Those are all true. But it (the document) was not released by me. Those were the details from the proceedings and should be kept private. But I don’t know who leaked the secrets. Originally we wanted to go after those who were responsible, but later, thought people should know the truth, so we no longer tried to find the company who were responsible for translating the document.”
Right now, Han Geng’s team is made up of all Han Geng’s friends, no contracts, no agreements. Sun Le, to avoid arousing suspicion, once asked Han Geng, “You and I are friends. It’s not good to work together. Why don’t I find you a management company?” Han Geng said, “Brother, you think too much. I don’t even care so why do you worry about such little things.”
Just like this, Han Geng and a few of his friends got together and formed a team. Han Geng’s team is now, absolutely, internationalized. “We have those who speak Chinese, Korean, and also English. The most tiring every day are the meetings; it feels just like The United Nations General Assembly, all kinds of languages are spoken. For every little thing, we need to discuss for a long time. Han Geng even needs to hold the job as an interpreter in our group”.
May 2010, absent for nearly half a year, Han Geng came out with his first solo album “Gen Xin”, and also successfully held his very own first concert in mid July. “In the beginning we didn’t want to have a concert, we only thought of having a little fan meeting. Later on, the discussion got more and more ‘high’ as we talked over dinner and ended up with a concert. As a friend, in my eyes, Han Geng is still the skinny, weak little brother who is standing near the corner of the staircase, needing my protection. As a working partner, I also hope to give him the best, because the love he has for the stage and his dazzling existence on the stage validates that he deserves the best.
It takes a lot of effort to schedule an interview with Han Geng ; need to fight time with his album promotions, rehearsals for his concert, and advertisers. Finally in the first Thursday of August, we arranged to meet at Ullens Center for Contemporary Art in 798. Compared with others, the outdoor photo-shoot is quieter there. Of course, this visit by Han Geng has disrupted the entire mood of Ullens Center. Han Geng’s popularity has exceeded all of our expectations.
From the moment Han Geng stepped down from his van to the second floor work studio of the Ullens Center, just within these few short minutes, there were already news of his latest activities on the weibo. During the photo-shoot, due to too many people around, we had to ask the security guards to help with maintaining order. After the first set was done, we escaped with the quickest speed possible. Even the reporters felt the excitement of being surrounded and chased. Due to the posting speed of the weibo, during the second shooting, it was necessary for the staff to clear the set, causing great alarm in the showroom. All the staff of Ullens Center had been summoned by emergency to come to help with maintaining order. The staff members around me said jokingly, “So exciting, just like ‘Plants vs. Zombies’* (*a computer game), we’re just like the plants that shoots bullets.”
As compared to the staff member’s nervousness and excitement, Han Geng, when faced with this kind of situation, was all calm. “To him, this is all a small case, he has experienced something even crazier. When we eat out, there are people who hold up their cell phone toward him and start taking pictures. They’re the kind that put their phones right up to your face” his manager says. After the shoot while resting on second floor lounge, Han Geng said he had met the more “inconceivable” kind of fans. “When I was in Korea, a grandma came and asked for my autograph. I thought it was only an autograph so I agreed. And then, the grandma took out a thick stack of paper for me to sign. I was flabbergasted. As I was signing, the grandma patted me heavily on the back while calling me a good guy. The impact from the patting was blow after blow.”
Since the lawsuit with SM, the biggest question people have is, can Han Geng continue to be popular after leaving SJ? What if (he) starts to go downhill, the glamour of being surrounded by thousands of fans no longer exists, can Han Geng handle this kind of detriment? The reporter had passed the question to Han Geng. Han Geng says he can go back and continue to dance, open a dance studio, he can very quickly adjust to this kind of life because he did not become famous overnight. “Do you believe, the first year after my debut, how much I earned? 4,000 Won. The consumption rate in Korea is very high so it counts as a pretty poor living. I have gotten through those kinds of days, what could be scarier.”
The Han Geng that’s standing alone below the stage this time is closer to the real him. “No need to share with others, everything on the stage is all for myself.” Han Geng used “酣畅淋漓”* to describe the recently finished solo concert. (*a Chinese saying meaning extremely comfortable and gratifying)
Source: Baidu Gengba http://tieba.baidu.com/f?kz=871615951
Story from: BQ Weekly
Translated by: wendy
This has been a very long post, and I hope it will give you readers a better insight towards Han Geng and his work..!
credits : all are duly credited in the pictures and videos, thank you..